Why Every Woman Should Soul Travel At Least Once In Her Life






I love to travel. I love to explore foreign countries, visit new places and meet new people. I love to feel the sand between my toes, to relax, to have a good time. And yet I wasn’t prepared to have my life changed by it. But it did, and here is the story of how it happened…

Like so many other “normal” women out there, I had a corporate job, which allowed me to do what I loved – travel – just a couple of weeks a year. At first I didn’t see anything wrong with my lifestyle – after all, this is what everyone around me considered a “successful life”.

But I started feeling stuck. And the more I tried to suppress this urge, the stronger it was getting. The urge to grow, to change something, to live a life that is not just about going to the office every morning. I wanted to feel alive, and I didn’t want to feel it only a couple of weeks a year – I wanted it every day.

I wanted a life, that was mine.

I wanted to travel more, to spend my days the way I like, to love what I do and do what I love, to do something meaningful. I wanted to be my true self, a spiritual traveler. I didn’t want to waste my time filling excel sheets or forms, conducting meetings or attend time-wasting conferences, and run straight towards a burnout.

A few years ago I got really sick. I spent several weeks in a hospital. I was getting clear signs that my lifestyle needed to change, but I ignored them until I had no other choice.

So about a year ago, when I was in Italy with my husband, we talked about it. And about what truly matters to us. And with the courage I didn’t know I had in me, I decided to quit my job. I didn’t have a plan what to do, but it didn’t stop me. I was ready to begin a new journey.

And so I did what I loved the most – I traveled. I went to Asia, which I already knew. But this time it was different. 

This time, I took my time, I did not hurry from one place to another. I skipped most of the big cities and spent more time in nature and places that most tourists did not go to. 

I realized that this time the only place I wanted to explore was… myself. I spent a long time just doing nothing, no sightseeing, no temples, just dreaming at the beach or at a lake in Sumatra, thinking about my life, my future, and meditating. I was traveling around this land that I’ve known for years, yet I never truly knew… The land called myself.

The big question was:  What do I really want? I still have (hopefully) 30 or 40 years to live and at the end I don´t want to regret anything. I knew that I didn’t want to return to corporate life. But what did I want instead?

So I tried being self-employed, but I failed miserably. I expected new results without changing the way I was doing things.

I followed my mind (and not my heart) and started a business that offered data security consulting. I thought it was a great idea, since I have a degree in law and it was part of my former job.

Of course, it did not work. I had no customers. To be honest, I didn’t really want to do this job. But I liked the idea of being independent, and not to follow the rules of a company or a boss, to wear jeans and not a suit.

So I decided to try again, but this time in a different way. I politely asked my mind to go for a walk while I spent some quality time with my heart.

We had some great conversations.

It felt like catching up with my old friend, who knows me better than anyone else.   

A friend who reminded me I am stronger than I think. That I can achieve anything. It reminded me of all the big goals I set for myself, and accomplished.

Why have I forgotten all this? I passed my law exam, I got my diving license, I got a job when I really needed one, I survived a tumor. My life is – and has always been – pretty awesome. Things always worked out in the end, then why should I worry and doubt myself now?

My heart also politely – though firmly – reminded me that I can’t control everything. The plane will not take off because of the haze and I can be angry as much as I want, and it will still not take off. Sometimes things happen, and there is nothing we can do. But, what I can always control, is my attitude and my thoughts about it.

There were times when I wanted to argue with my heart. I didn’t like what it was saying.

Like the fact that everything needs time.

I want everything to be finished yesterday! Ok, I can settle for today, but really no longer than that.

I had to accept, that just because I don’t like something, it doesn’t mean it’s not true. Because it does take time to build a business. It does take time to become successful. That’s normal. And wow, the moment I let go of those expectations, I started earning money! Not much, but it’s a first step. So dear heart, thank you.

Today we all have so many options and possibilities to make our dreams come true. You only need to start. Maybe you can start working part-time to have a certain amount of money for your daily living and some time to start living your dreams. You can walk the first steps quite safely. But I do encourage you to leave your comfort zone and go where your heart wants you to go.

Our mind is great at finding “reasonable excuses” why now is not the best time for any big changes. But you know, it´s only our fear to start something new. I can understand you. I know these emotions very well and to be honest, I´m still worried whether I’ll make enough money for my daily living and travelling. Some nights it still keeps me awake… 

I still have doubts if this is the right way. But there is only one way to find out – to try. And so that’s what I’m doing.

Because along with some doubts, there are all those great moments where I enjoy my freedom. I can get up when I want, take a break when I need one, go out for lunch and enjoy the sun. I love to work when I´m in my flow and not when someone is telling me to. All in all, this is really worth it.

To all the women out there, who have been thinking of quitting their jobs and pursue their dream, I want to tell you: “Listen to your heart”. Take time to really reconnect with it. It holds great knowledge, but it never imposes its ways.

And whatever your heart tells you – go for it, even if you’re afraid. Don’t think of the final results. You’re taking responsibility for your life and your future, and that’s what counts.

I´m sure you want an extraordinary life. Let this story be a little reminder, that you can.

Ivana Drobek

Ivana Drobek


Ivana is a passionate travel blogger from Germany. She wants to encourage other women to travel alone and to start living their dreams. She writes especially for women who want to explore the inner and outer world. Travelling is for her more than visiting exciting places. It is a journey to herself.
Connect with her on Facebook and check out her German blog for soul travelers

3 Comments

  • Anonymous

    Reply Reply February 20, 2016

    Nahmaste Ivana. Very insightful and motivating. I enjoyed reading your blog and it gave lots of food for thought. I got to get moving. Thank you

  • Ivana

    Reply Reply February 28, 2016

    Thankyou so much! It is so great to get such a feedback.

    With love,
    Ivana

  • Lisette

    Reply Reply April 14, 2016

    This sounds amazing. Money is an issue, though. What do you suggest?

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